Are you afraid of your picture being taken and posted to the internet? Is the thought of making a video almost unbearable? It is because you are confused.
You think the reflection in the mirror is what you look like to others. You also believe your voice is heard by others as you hear it. You are wrong on both accounts.
You are as the picture shows and your voice and your mannerisms (in the video) is how we actually see you. I am sorry I had to break the news to you. If you look overweight in the picture, you can be pretty sure that you are. I have had to accept that I look my age and my hair is becoming sparse. My mirror has lied to me for years but never the photos.